Archive for May 2024

WHEN DOES THE LOVE OF LIFE END?    6 comments

What’s bothering me to the point of insomnia is the awful cruelty to children and the lifetime of effects they are likely to suffer because of political interference in the complex process of insemination, pregnancy, and birth. I’m concerned about the generation of poor (and they will be mostly poor) babies who, by definition – indeed by law — will be force-born into a world that can’t afford them or can’t care for them for one of many possible reasons.

            If the folks behind the ban on abortion were truly concerned about the welfare of the children and the people they will develop into there’d be massive efforts to assure a healthy first nine months by way of financial, medical, and social support. How about enlisting the person who helped create the fetus in the first place. Wouldn’t it make sense for men to register their DNA like registration for the draft so they can accept their share of the responsibility?

            Once the baby is born if the forced-birth folks really cared for the little ones there would be recognition of the importance of a continued loving relationship with the parent whose body has been home during those essential developmental months. They’d be advocating like crazy to provide everything necessary for a good heginning. That would require maternal, parental, and childcare funding at every level for every person. At the same time they’d be advocating for good nourishing lives – physical, psychological, social, educational — all through childhood and beyond. There would be lifetime structural support for every individual to “be the best that they can be.” And women would continue to be counted among those who count.

            Otherwise, based on what we know about human development, those same forced birth advocates will be complaining in twenty years or so about the use of their tax money to support a generation condemned by them to the need for special services.

            I love the diapers adds showing a beautiful newborn baby gazing trustingly into the mother’s loving eyes. That’s how it should be. We can help assure that kind of love for the newly born and the rest of us to the end of life if we focus on the love, unimpeded by cold “righteousness.”

LOSING AT WORDLE   1 comment

Seven days ago I was pushing a total of 50 wins eagerly striving for 100. Then I came across one of those words where early on I got all but the first letter leaving many possible words to choose. And I chose wrong, putting me back to zero. Not exactly an earth-shattering failure but I was interested in observing my reaction. Back at zero my whole body had lost its eagerness to win and I got to thinking about people, students and adults, who never had the opportunity to succeed at something they were good at. Like students in inferior schools, for example. Or even how different my own daughter’s career life might have been if her school district had not cut the art program as if it weren’t important. Or even families where parents strive to force their children into directions that may not fit what they have to offer. 

That’s it. Even playing word games I can’t help thinking about the problems we create for the welfare of our people by failing to recognize and reward potential in everyone right from the beginning. Even worse, convincing people because of their color, or social status, or gender, or hair style, or religion, or whatever, that they are less worthy. It makes me sad. Emphasis on “reward potential.”

Posted May 7, 2024 by Mona Gustafson Affinito in Uncategorized

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