MY FRIEND NICK SPOONER DIED   14 comments

Not the famous Nick Spooner you’ll find if you google the name, but the Nick Spooner who spent his life overcoming obstacles out of which came more wisdom each time.

Let me tell you more about Nick Spooner who made his living driving a private town car limo service. I met him in spring, 2015, after I had rolled and totaled my car. Finding myself being neurotic about driving, I crunched the numbers about car ownership and decided to stop driving. Then came the godsend recommendation from my friend Karen Noren who gave me Nick’s card. From the beginning he was “my driver,” as long as I made my plans mostly for after 11:00 a.m. and reserved him ahead of time. After all, he worked all night, so he needed sleep time. I wasn’t the only person who claimed him as “my driver.”

So let me tell you more about Nick Spooner. Like the time he drove me to the Chanhassen Dinner Theater. I was accustomed to popping into the front seat and enjoying one of our interesting discussions. There was so much to learn and share about his life, his wisdom, his personal philosophy. Many times we sat for a while to carry on the discussion. That night at the dinner theater, however, he would drop me off at 6:00 p.m. No time for chatting, I started to get out of the car when he stopped me with his delightful laugh and said, “Let me get out and open the door for you. We can let people think you’re an important person.”

Now let me tell you more. On February 6, 2019, he drove me to my dentist appointment at 12:15 p.m. On our return, we sat in the car for a while as he told me his concerns that people might choose to walk home in the freezing cold weather. He remembered in body and mind his own experience of nearly dying in his teens of hypothermia making his way home as a snowstorm blew in. So he had called his referral contacts telling them not to let anyone try walking home. “Call me.”, he had said, “I’ll come and get them. It doesn’t matter if they can pay me.” That was Nick, and that was our last conversation.

He worked as usual on the night of February 6-7, among other things helping a young woman customer whose lock was stuck. That was Nick. He would make sure she was home and safe inside. As he left there, he called in a report to the police that he had spotted a car pulled off to the side of the road and waited there until he was sure officers had been dispatched. A short time later that car spotted Nick’s limo in a snowbank on the side of the road and called it in.

Nick had suffered a seizure, grateful later that he didn’t have a customer in the car. At the hospital he was eventually diagnosed with a glioblastoma – maybe more than one. Senators Ted Kennedy and John McCain died a year after their diagnosis, as did my former husband Lou Affinito. Nick didn’t have a year. He died at 1:18 a.m. on March 23, 2019. Quietly, it was reported, but until those moments, he hadn’t “Gone Gentle into that Good Night.”

I received the news as I was attending a “One Day University” class on resilience- why some people overcome adversity and others do not. Nick had overcome so much with such grace. Resilience.

He was a good writer, with so much to tell. During our years of friendship, I pleaded with him to write. I do have something in a folder marked “Nick’s writings.” In his last days, he had regular entries on Facebook. I want to put together what he wrote there. Someone should know the story of his last struggles. In his last entry on March 21 he complained of falling. Just the day before he had asked, “Who would like to go to Lowe’s or Home Depot with me? I need to find a polycarbonite tool case for a project that I’m working on.” Resilience.

Would someone be willing to check for me on the legality of copying his entries and pasting them into a Word document for potential sharing? I am leaving soon for a month at sea, and I’m struggling with computer/printer problems, so I don’t have the time to do it now.

 

14 responses to “MY FRIEND NICK SPOONER DIED

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  1. Beautiful story. Thanking you kindly. You are a marvelous story writer and I appreciate heaering from you.

  2. Knowing how important Nick, his life and story and his friendship meant to you I offer my warm thoughts. Knowing the disease from a dear friend, Nick was fortunate to really live until the end. He filled his place in time honorably, resiliantly and with genuine respect for and kindness toward people he encountered. Your short time in his company no doubt was a gift to both of you.
    Sorry,can’t help with the writing question.

    Nancy J Gustafson
  3. Mona – I am sorry for your loss. When someone becomes a close friend they are almost family. Your tribute shows how much you care. Pat

    On Tue, Mar 26, 2019 at 1:52 PM monagustafsonaffinito wrote:

    > Mona Gustafson Affinito posted: “Not the famous Nick Spooner you’ll find > if you google the name, but the Nick Spooner who spent his life overcoming > obstacles out of which came more wisdom each time. Let me tell you more > about Nick Spooner who made his living driving a private town car” >

  4. No I had a truly lovely piece of time with Nick, Mona. So sorry for your loss

  5. I meant NOW:)

  6. So sorry to hear Mona. Seemed like an incredible guy!

  7. A beautiful tribute, to someone who seems to have been a kind and beautiful humam being. May light eternal shine on him

  8. What a wonderful friend you had in each other. So sorry for your loss. I’m sure you will miss his good nature, wisdom and laugh.

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